Novemberness

It is that time of year again, when the rains have begun (or the first layer of snow has already settled), and the clocks have changed, and it seems to be dark all the time. The news lately has been more than usually disturbing, with attacks on soldiers at home, and the fall from grace…

Sad for a Reason

“My sadness was a form of protest and I wasn’t ready to surrender.” -Lorrie Spinney My dear friend Lorrie wrote these words in a great blog posting about joy, and they really struck me. I ended up with many questions about this idea. Not answers, but maybe you have those. We all know that things…

On being an Understanding Parent

I was recently reminded of how much I have always loved the story of Ferdinand the Bull, by Munro Leaf. In case you never have had the pleasure of reading it, it is a fable about a bull that liked to sit “just quietly” and smell the flowers. He was disrespected by all the other…

Why Isn’t this working? (Part 2) Say What You Mean

 A child’s mind develops in a miraculous, but predictable sequence. The newborn swimming through a world of random sensations eventually becomes a fully rational adult. And, between those points in time, the child’s mind is a unique place. They live, up until the time of the “9 year old change” (to be discussed another day)…

Why isn’t this Working? (Part 1 of 5)

As a parent, we all have those moments when our best efforts and most time-tested ideas about how to be a parent fail.  Our children melt down in public (or at home).  They can’t seem to get along with people.  They don’t do what we ask.  Some of the clients I work with ask me…