Working Together, alone.

Many people struggle with the question of whether it is possible to do couple’s work when one partner won’t attend. Or to fix a family relationship when some don’t believe they need therapy, and some do. I agree that it’s hard. But it’s far from impossible. It is easy to think that the problem in…

Before You Leave the Island

Suppose that you find yourself on a desert Island. It’s pretty good there at first. There’s sun and surf and no-one to bother you. It’s a little cold and creepy at night, but you soon get used to it, and build yourself a shelter. And it’s all okay. Until it’s not quite as okay anymore.…

Sad for a Reason

“My sadness was a form of protest and I wasn’t ready to surrender.” -Lorrie Spinney My dear friend Lorrie wrote these words in a great blog posting about joy, and they really struck me. I ended up with many questions about this idea. Not answers, but maybe you have those. We all know that things…